In the spirit of openheartedness and what life is really all about, I’ll go so far as to say that the fear of others may mask some deep-seated desire to understand, and maybe even to love. Because really, what is there to be afraid of? Few people today don’t know—or have in their families—at least one loving couple who are raising children, same-sex or not. And it’s really just the loving part that matters. That same-sex marriage could go from its preliminary draft of “diagnosable” to the final edit of “so what?” must indicate some positive evolution on the part of the larger human consciousness. My wife, being a biology teacher, puts it even more succinctly: “Why are all these people so worried about who everybody else is sleeping with, anyway?” (Score two for Moms.)
—Chris Ware on his cover of the May 13, 2013 issue, “Mother’s Day.” Get the story behind the cover: http://nyr.kr/10d7TyC
I un-“liked” The New Yorker on Facebook after last week when the whole magazine was stuff by men (no ladies at all!), but I’ll keep following them on Tumblr…
In happier news: New Zealand Parliament passes marriage equality bill, people in the gallery break into song, I get choked up. (h/t The World)
I’m saying this: we cannot keep pitting the church against humanity, or progress…my generation, the generation that can smell bullshit, especially holy bullshit, from a mile away, will not stick around to see the church fight gay marriage against our better judgment. It’s my generation who is overwhelmingly supporting marriage equality, and Church, as a young person and as a theologian, it is not in your best interest to give them that ultimatum.
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Another day, another damned defeat.
It wasn’t much of a surprise. Despite heroic efforts by gay-rights activists, yesterday North Carolinians amended their state constitution to ban same-sex marriage. Amendment One passed by an overwhelming 22-percent margin. Gay marriage is already illegal in North Carolina by statute, but amending the constitution ensures that state courts can’t overturn the law.
For supporters of gay rights, it’s another setback in a war that, overall, seems to be going the right way. But it’s disappointing nonetheless, and there are a few things that are both telling and especially harmful about the gay-marriage ban in North Carolina.
Boehner so far has collected $742,000 to defend DOMA, and that money was skimmed from funds that would normally go toward House officer and employee salaries, Chief Administrative Officer Dan Strodel told members of a House Appropriations subcommittee.
What my pastor posted to FB yesterday
“I’ll marry you.” It’s rare that you get to say that to anyone other than your spouse. But pastors are in the unique position to say to a couple that we feel ready to marry, “Yes, I’ll marry you.” It’s a privilege to be able to get to know a couple, to hear why they feel marriage matters, and to seek out why it’s important for them to be married in a church.
As a Presbyterian pastor of a church with a fairly large group of young people I’m asked to officiate at marriages fairly regularly. I’ve not yet had to say, “I’m sorry, I can’t marry you.”
Yesterday the equivalent of our denominational supreme court ruled that Presbyterian ministers may not say, “I’ll marry you” to gay and lesbian couples. The ruling was fairly close, but I don’t think that matters much to the countless GLBT people seeking desperately to find a home in the church. The church court has told me I must say, “I can’t marry you.”
This ruling is one more example of a church living in fear. It is one more example of a church refusing to free itself from it’s worship of rules at the expense of grace and love. It is one more example of a church turning it’s back on committed and faithful children of God.
After a lifetime of faithful service, Rev. Jane Adams Spahr was called out of retirement to face a church court. The charge against Rev. Spahr was that she had performed marriages for couples of the same gender. In other words, the “crime” of Rev. Spahr was showing grace to people that the church would shun.