Women so often have been denied respect, true respect. We need to extend this to each other. The conditioning which teaches us to see each other as competitors for men’s attention also tells us that relationships between women are not as worthwhile as those between women and men. The ability to respect another human being for what she is offering is the foundation for a friendship. It is not to be taken lightly.
Another bit from the interview of Maya Angelou in The Feminine Face of God.
(The Maya Angelou bits are the best part of this book, which otherwise comes off very dated in its discussion.)
These songs, which presume to assure women that they are attractive (and, by extension, worthwhile), assume that the singer’s relationship to our bodies overrules our relationship with them. All of our primping — our “fixing makeup, just so” — has a pointed objective, namely to be found attractive by men. And allegedly, what a relief to find out we don’t need to be doing any of it at all!
Rape isn’t entertainment, it’s a never-more pressing outrage that is not to be enjoyed with a glass of Merlot and a few cheese straws as you watch your “edgy” TV drama. There are more refuges, more sexual assaults and women are now seen as sex objects on an unprecedented scale.